i was on the train just now feeling abit bored... looking at the ppl ard me and wondering wat they are doing at this time of the day and where are they heading to?
out of a sudden i recalled tt according to the contract, i have to work 44 hours in a week... if i round up to 45 hours and divide among 5 days, it will be 9 hours rite? one day only have 24 hours... minus work, travelling and sleep time, we have less than 5 hours to ourselves... and we have to meet up with frens, go shopping, do our favourite activities, housework... :s
Monday, March 27, 2006
Tuesday, March 21, 2006
~Praise~
i happened to be watching the discussion about how to discipline children... talking about scolding and caning becoming a thing of the past and praising is the way to go now... =)
becuz of my teaching job, i have learnt a whole lot about how to deal with children... the first thing tt i learnt is to praise them... praise is not as simple as many people think... just say "good" and "well done" is not sufficient for the children... you need to praise them accurately! call them by their names when you praise them and telling them exactly wat is their action tt makes u wanna praise them... for example, "john, you did very well for helping me to wipe the table and i really appreciate your help! thank you!" (reinforce with a big big hug) =) children need to know exactly wat actions are being appreciated and wat actions are not favoured... by praising them, they learn the right things to do!
wat happened when children did the wrong things? are we supposed to scold them or beat them? for me, i think it wld be better to explain to them (if they are older) and make sure they understands you and your point of view... if they get upset, always remind them tt you still love them but you dun like the things tt they do... of cuz if they are too young to understd, just use a firm tone to say "no" or indicate tt their action is wrong... constantly remind them if they repeat the action... when they stop doing it, its time for you to praise them for their ability to correct themselves!
how nice it is! i think i would love to grow up in an environment with praises~~~
becuz of my teaching job, i have learnt a whole lot about how to deal with children... the first thing tt i learnt is to praise them... praise is not as simple as many people think... just say "good" and "well done" is not sufficient for the children... you need to praise them accurately! call them by their names when you praise them and telling them exactly wat is their action tt makes u wanna praise them... for example, "john, you did very well for helping me to wipe the table and i really appreciate your help! thank you!" (reinforce with a big big hug) =) children need to know exactly wat actions are being appreciated and wat actions are not favoured... by praising them, they learn the right things to do!
wat happened when children did the wrong things? are we supposed to scold them or beat them? for me, i think it wld be better to explain to them (if they are older) and make sure they understands you and your point of view... if they get upset, always remind them tt you still love them but you dun like the things tt they do... of cuz if they are too young to understd, just use a firm tone to say "no" or indicate tt their action is wrong... constantly remind them if they repeat the action... when they stop doing it, its time for you to praise them for their ability to correct themselves!
how nice it is! i think i would love to grow up in an environment with praises~~~
Appreciate the children
Something happened in my class last week and it made me ponder about how adults think... When my cute lil boy cannot finish the game in class, mummy accidentally said, "you shld arrange faster. see, now everyone finished arranging and teacher showing answers now." after a while, he started to cry loudly in class... ='(
why did he cry? mummy was puzzled by his sudden outburst and brought him out to pacify him... after a while, he was feeling better and got back to the class... after class, i had a lil chat with mummy... she was telling me tt she din know why he would suddenly cry... i explained to her wat she told him just now and she was like "did i say that?" "i didn't think much about it and he actually got affected by my words"...
to me, i picked up the same message tt he received when mummy said her comments... its the feeling of rejection! to him, he is trying to recall wat i had shown him, probably wanting to double confirm his answers before arranging... he knows if he does it right, mummy will be happy and proud of him... tts the reason for him working hard at it... but mummy's one simple comment simply deny him of the efforts he put in... i think tts why he feels sad and could not help but to cry...
we often dun think much of wat we said and treat them as passing comments, however it might just affect the party who is listening to us... especially towards young children, you think tt its alright for you to say anything you like and they might not understd you... for me, i dun think this is true... even if they could not express themselves in words, your words would really have an impact on them, whether it is negative and postive!
why did he cry? mummy was puzzled by his sudden outburst and brought him out to pacify him... after a while, he was feeling better and got back to the class... after class, i had a lil chat with mummy... she was telling me tt she din know why he would suddenly cry... i explained to her wat she told him just now and she was like "did i say that?" "i didn't think much about it and he actually got affected by my words"...
to me, i picked up the same message tt he received when mummy said her comments... its the feeling of rejection! to him, he is trying to recall wat i had shown him, probably wanting to double confirm his answers before arranging... he knows if he does it right, mummy will be happy and proud of him... tts the reason for him working hard at it... but mummy's one simple comment simply deny him of the efforts he put in... i think tts why he feels sad and could not help but to cry...
we often dun think much of wat we said and treat them as passing comments, however it might just affect the party who is listening to us... especially towards young children, you think tt its alright for you to say anything you like and they might not understd you... for me, i dun think this is true... even if they could not express themselves in words, your words would really have an impact on them, whether it is negative and postive!
Wednesday, March 01, 2006
"searching in darkness"
i rem there was once i watched the documentary film on animal behaviours... the researchers had special camera which captured the video of a troop of monkeys taking shelter in a underground cave... the monkeys walked inside the cave without any special equipments unlike the ppl... yet, they managed to move together as a whole group inside the cave and explore the underground... how wonderful they are to be capable of walking in total darkness~!
i imagine tt in the real world, we are doing exactly the same thing too... feeling lost about the present and the future? we are like walking in the underground... trapped in total darkness... where is our front and where is the back? are we really happy now? are we really satisfied with wat we have now? and of cuz we believed that something better is going to come along and tt leads us on to continue to search for the better whether it is our jobs, our loved ones, our hobbies...
because we cannot see wat is in front, we make decisions according our imagination... If ur esp tells u to go right, u will go right... tt's our natural instinct? haha i think tt is wat really makes life exciting sometimes... u nvr know wat's gonna happen next unless u chose tt particular path... if u chose to give up, u might nvr get the chance to go back already... lets enjoy our journey in the dark! Be brave!
i imagine tt in the real world, we are doing exactly the same thing too... feeling lost about the present and the future? we are like walking in the underground... trapped in total darkness... where is our front and where is the back? are we really happy now? are we really satisfied with wat we have now? and of cuz we believed that something better is going to come along and tt leads us on to continue to search for the better whether it is our jobs, our loved ones, our hobbies...
because we cannot see wat is in front, we make decisions according our imagination... If ur esp tells u to go right, u will go right... tt's our natural instinct? haha i think tt is wat really makes life exciting sometimes... u nvr know wat's gonna happen next unless u chose tt particular path... if u chose to give up, u might nvr get the chance to go back already... lets enjoy our journey in the dark! Be brave!
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